The top six things we're talking about in Parent land right now
This Monday's comings and goings in Parent land are extended due to popular demand ( thanks for the emails, Caroline J ). But honestly, who could have foreseen how busy everyone's got these last seven days. Our goal, as ever, is merely to provide you with a hand-dangled smorgasbord of the ripe activities of those who reside, like us in 'Parent-land'*.
*And as an aside (but important point of order), please know that by 'parent' we include guardians, grandparents, uncles, aunts, godparents and just about anyone else who regularly, and, Oh so bravely, steps up to the plate for a child.
1 'Rent a Daddy' launches, form a disorderly queue
It could be the result of a particularly intense lockdown, but one brave man is offering to give up his job as a truck driver to be your child's 'Daddy for hire'. Available for imparting important life lessons, attending all sporting events and do school drop offs and pick ups, he will even pose for family selfies if you want (but that's extra, obviously). For anyone desperate enough, he's AUS $30 per hour. Surely that money would be better spent on a babysitter and a couple of episodes of Selling Sunset?
"Australian man offers ‘Rent a Daddy’ service in hilarious ad on social media
An Australian man’s offer to provide ‘daddy’ rental services to mothers whose partners don’t help manage children sparked a laugh riot online. A photo of the advertisement advertising his services created a buzz on social media and many said “they’re up for it”.
Jake James from New South Wales said he is ready to offer the services in a bid to try out a “new career move to get away from trucks”. In the advertisement, the man wrote: “Has your baby daddy been acting up? Tired of him playing games? Does he put drugs and his mates before his kids? Get yourself a rent a daddy!”
Read more at 247 news around the world
2 The 'Gender reveal party' fire thing
Seen this week, the highs and catastrophic lows of the ( *Trend Alert) Gender Reveal Party. Kate and Rio Ferdinand hosted their own gender reveal party to reveal what flavour of child they are expecting, with Kate already step mother to Rio's three children from his first marriage. It's a boy by the way. Meanwhile, on the other side of the pond, with the gender reveal party craze pretty much everywhere, things have gone very pear shaped with a massive wildfire sparked by one over-exhubertant parent to be.
Leah Asmelash, CNN
The woman best known for popularizing gender reveal parties has a message for the world: Please stop.
This week, as more than 7,000 acres in California were burned after a gender reveal led to a massive wildfire in San Bernardino County, blogger Jenna Karvunidis -- who is largely credited for creating the gender reveal party -- took to Facebook to condemn the over-the-top events.
"Stop having these stupid parties. For the love of God, stop burning things down to tell everyone about your kid's penis. No one cares but you," she wrote.
This isn't the first time a gender reveal party has led to catastrophe, and yet the celebrations have only grown in popularity.
Here's how we got here.
Karvunidis had her own gender reveal party back in 2008, before they became a Thing. She and her husband went what is now the more traditional route, though: cutting a cake that revealed an inside of pink frosting. A girl. "I just thought it would be really fun for everybody in the whole family to find out," Karvunidis told NPR last year. She wrote about it on her blog, High Gloss And Sauce, and at the time it garnered some local attention. But since 2008, these celebrations of life have turned into risky endeavors. Though many still opt for the classic blue or pink cake reveal, others have taken more extreme routes.
The current wildfire in California is massive, but it's just small potatoes compared to a 2017 reveal in Arizona that led to a wildfire spanning 47,000 acres. It all happened when members at the party shot a makeshift target scrawled with the words "Boy" and "Girl."
3. We asked ourselves, are we parenting our children the same way we look after our pets?
While we've been navel gazing parenting types since our babies popped out, we may have missed a trick on understanding which pet-parenting style we've gone with. Not that we're saying there is a correlation between how you care for your cat/dog/raven and the way you are raising your kids. But, well, maybe they are not a million miles apart.
"10 dog parenting styles and what they reveal about the pet-owner bond
by Lisa Walden, Country Living
The team at animal wellbeing specialists ITCHpet.com have uncovered the most popular pet parenting styles and the meanings behind each of them. From firm 'Constables' to the protective 'Goose', these personas show just how many of us treat our furry friends like one of the family.
A study of 1,834 dog and cat owners found that around 29% adopt similar styles of parenting to their children and pets, while only 16% use a completely different style of parenting with their children compared to the one they use with their dog or cat. "Pet parent personas have become more common in line with our growing desire to humanise pets to ensure they feel like one of the family. It's fascinating to discover that there are clearly different categories or 'personas when it comes to pet paw'renting," Professor Peter Neville, a pet behavioural expert, said. Want to decode your pet parenting style? Take a look at the various ones below:
1. Traffic Light This is the most popular style of parenting for dog and cat owners. Peter says: "Traffic Light pet owners have a healthy balance of rules and freedom. Pets might be given the red light when it comes to surfaces or the bed, but these owners enjoy nothing better than giving them the go-ahead to roam freely in the park. "Be a Traffic Light and give clear and consistent signals, not same signals and different outcomes. If you say, 'yes good', it's always 'yes, good'. Don't look imploringly then treat. Be consistent in rewarding from day one."
2. Entranced The second most popular pet parenting style is Entranced. Peter explains: "These people have the best intentions, but as soon as their pet locks eyes with them and gives their command, they're toast …. as they turn to putty in their paws. "Entranced owners are at their pet's beck and call, even if it's 4am and their furry friend is sat on their chest glaring intently wanting breakfast." 3. Sloth 3. The Sloth "The most laid-back of the types is the 'Sloth' (14%). Dogs and cats who are lucky enough to have a sloth for a paw-rent are the envy of the street's pet-life - as they are spoiled rotten. "These guys are the champion of chill, anything goes. There's a peacefulness in being gentle and easy-going. Rather than strict training, they encourage their pet to work things out for themselves." Read more at Country Living
4. Would we seriously regret sending our child to a private school?
Glossy mag and home to the stars, Hello magazine, brought us a surprising revelation this week with an interview with actor and TV presenter Nadia Sawahla and her husband about their biggest parenting regret
After homeschooling both their daughters for the last five years (big floppy hats off to you both for that!), Sawahla revealed choosing to pay for her daughters' education had been a massive mistake.
Nicola Murphy, Hello Magazine
Nadia Sawalha and Mark Adderley have been homeschooling their children for five years, so there was no back to school rush for them this September! However, this time of year is a poignant reminder of their biggest parenting regret with daughters Maddie, 17, and Kiki-Bee, 12.
The Loose Women star and her husband sat down with HELLO! to discuss their new book, Honey, I Homeschooled the Kids, which is available to buy from 3 September. When asked what prompted them to make the decision to remove their children from school, they revealed that their youngest daughter Kiki, in particular, was too young to cope and described her as "anxious" and "very shy."
Nadia and Mark regret sending daughters Maddie and Kiki-Bee to private school
"The biggest mistake we made was sending them to private school," Nadia remarked, and Mark agreed. "I regret one huge parenting decision above everything else and it's the belief that if you pay for your child's education it's the right thing," he said, before describing a private school education as "aspirational."
Mark went on to say: "When I look back I feel so stupid that we were so bloody conventional in that thinking. What I found so disheartening about the whole thing is that it works if your child is highly academic in the first place. It's not interested in helping any of the other children who struggle or learn differently." Voicing their slight differences in opinion, he noted: "I'm going to go a bit stronger than Nadia here, I do think that private schools are run like a business. It's about making money."
Read more at Hello Magazine
5. We've been thinking this for ages, but probiotics will actually save the world
We know the post (below) says that they only 'may' help manage childhood
obesity, but we've been quietly convinced for years that anything that tastes as sour and funky as kefir must surely be good for something. There's been so much research into the 'gut' being a second brain, and gut health being the new focus for mental health, as well as physical. Now we just have to figure out how to get our fussy eaters to drink it.
"Probiotics may help manage childhood obesity, study finds
Kristen Rogers, CNN Health
More than 340 million children and adolescents, globally, were overweight or obese in 2016, meaning they're at greater risk for obesity and disease later in life, and even early death. One solution to the growing burden could be found by turning attention to kids' gut health.
In combination with a calorie-controlled diet, the probiotic strain Bifidobacterium breve may help children and adolescents with obesity lose weight, according to a small study to be presented Monday at e-ECE 2020, the 22nd European Congress of Endocrinology.
Our gut microbiota are a dynamic population of more than 100 trillion microorganisms within our gastrointestinal tract, and they're responsible for maintaining immune function, normal metabolism and protection against pathogens. Diet has been considered a key driver of gut microbiota, and imbalances in the microbiota have been linked with diseases and infections.
Probiotics consist of live bacteria and other microorganisms "that are intended to have health benefits when consumed or applied to the body" and can be found in yogurt, other fermented foods and dietary supplements, according to the US National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health.
Similar to or the same as the microorganisms naturally present within our bodies, some bacteria of these probiotics can help aid digestion, vitamin production and destruction of disease-causing cells'.
Read more at CCN Health
6 Working mums are actually superheroes and we now have the evidence to prove it
While many parents worked from home perfecting the swanlike brilliance of gliding effortlessly through team zooms, Key Stage 2 History topics all the while providing healthy snacks and timing shoelaces, that wasn't all of us. So, it's especially satisfying to watch this epic time-lapse of business owner Jodi Geddes who shared the video on LinkedIn recently,
"Working from home with small kids? This time-lapse video shows just how exhausting it is
by Madeline Hislop, Womens Agenda
Jodi Geddes shared a time-lapse video on LinkedIn recently, showcasing the exhausting chaos many parents are dealing with at the moment, juggling working from home and looking after young children. Geddes, the co-founder of parental engagement platform Circle In has closed a $1.5 million seed investment, led by venture capital firm Our Innovation Fund, LP. So if anyone can claim to successfully navigate that work/life/has anyone seen the kids balance, it is her.
"The start up enables organisations to better assist their employees juggle parental leave and raising a family while working. The core product of Circle In offers a customised engagement platform for employers to provide to their community of working parents.
The time-lapse covers a period of just one hour, and features Jodi working in a home office space, with one of her young daughters playing on a tablet device by her side (and on her lap at different points). Jodi can be seen video-calling with earphones in, working on her computer, making sure her young daughter is occupied, and fielding requests from an older child, when she enters the room".
Read more at Women's Agenda
Quote of the week was from British TV presenter Steph McGovern via twitter
"When you’re enjoying a rare family meal out, in a very Covid secure restaurant, and then you see your 10 month old daughter licking the furniture . "
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