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Are you guilty of over-sharenting?

Updated: Oct 7, 2020

Recently I had a horrible wake up call when I merrily began to upload a unexpectedly adorable picture of my thirteen year old to our cavapoo's insta account. Yes, there are lots of things wrong with this statement, but let's not get started on that. What happened next horrified me. The boy said "No!" But, I thought, I am the parent, I gave birth to that child, without me he wouldn't exist. But it did make me think... is he my son, or am I his mother. Whose rights matter here?

These are the blurred lines of modern social media ettiquette. Our children should of course, have the right to not have their images shared across social media. Our generation didn't have our naked baby bottoms plastered all across Facebook or insta. Our first days at school may well have been recorded by our proud parents, but only in a printed picture hastily pasted into a photo album (which was then left to gather dust somewhere, as is right and proper).

Whether to stop sharenting or not is a conundrum many parents and influencers are now wrestling with. Many still think that if their children are small it's perfectly okay to share those dreamy images of them, but really where do you then draw the line? You only have to dip a toe into the handmade Moroccan tiled swimming pool of insta parenting and you will see wave after perfect wave of exquisitely filtered family portraits.

Click through to see the perfect family at home, see them on holiday, oh look they're eating fancy food, now they are frolicking through a field. Their children are accessorised just so, always clean, and smiling, and definitely not wearing branded sportswear. Don't even get me started on that. Most of all these images are a lie telling us that everyone else is living an unattainable dream. How quickly those followers might shrink with the instant deletion of these undeniably click bait children.